Patients likely to have a favorable reaction to cosmetic surgery
share these characteristics:
- They've been thinking about it for a long time.
- They don't want to look different, just better.
- They want the surgery. Their spouse loves them the way they are.
- They think they would feel more attractive with the surgery.
Is it okay to want to be more attractive?
Of course it is. A statement I often hear from women is: "My husband is not in favor of this at all, but he doesn't have to live in this body!" Often, spouses are passive or even reluctant about their partners having surgery. Women and men are doing it for their own reasons. Their motivation is not frivolous. An unattractive tummy can cause a woman to lose self-esteem, feel that she has to hide her body and even have the "lights off" when she is intimate with her husband. She is less motivated to stay in shape because exercise does not seem to help. An aging appearance has marital, social and professional implications that can be very real and very serious.